Thank you for that vote of confidence! I have noticed that the training provided for clerks by my local association seems to steer them towards a controlling and sometimes confrontational approach in dealing with members of the council. The irony, in my experience, is that this has, on occasion, led to a total breakdown in the relationship and resulted in the clerk's position becoming untenable.
I consider myself to be a member of team parish council. I'm neither their master nor their servant. They need me and I need them. If I have any concern regarding any aspect of our work, I pick up the phone or sit down with the member concerned and explain my thoughts, make suggestions and we agree a way forward together. If a member really wants something added to the agenda that I wouldn't normally include (perhaps because it's outside our area of operations), I'll include it and may address the meeting with "we wouldn't normally discuss this because... but Councillor Biggles feels strongly that..."
Happy council, happy clerk, easy life. I'm retired, I don't need the strife!